I never tried to hide the obvious fact that I’m a sucker for anything that looks cute. You can literally put a pair of googly eyes on a poop and top it with a little leaf, and I will most likely buy it.
This is how it always was.
I never liked Barbie or those creepy infant-like toys (looking at you, Baby Born). I had fluffy teddy bears all over my room, and my favorite toy was a plush, orange frog with a very original name ‘Bubble’. When you’re a kid that’s completely fine and socially acceptable. This is what is expected from a 10 year old girl.
But as time passed by, I seemed not to grow up when it comes to so called cute-stuff. I liked everything as any other teenager I knew, but on the top of that I always melted seeing something colorful and fluffy. At that time, it could be a bit awkward, especially that Poland isn’t consider a country opened for cuteness. We are getting modernize, our cafes are as trendy as the ones in the world’s biggest cities. However, there’s no cuteness – at least not in the places I hang out.
And I don’t mean Venus-Angelic type of cuteness, even for me that’s bit too much and I wouldn’t feel comfortable, but as long as she’s happy that way – why would I care? I won’t wear lolita type of clothes. To be honest my closet looks more like ‘Fifty shades of grey’. Not in a perverted way, of course. Just very monochromatic.
So I thought, that there is some balance between my inside and outside cuteness. My outside cuteness nearly doesn’t exist. I may have a cute tote bag or two, but inside I’m all rainbows, unicorns and sunshine. I will genuinely feel sad for a cartoon character.
Laugh at me, but this is true story – we went to Smyths, which is like Irish Toys R Us. They had Tsum Tsum on sale. If you don’t know what Tsum Tsum is, that’s a series of cute, collectible toys that you can stack onto each other. They are so small and flat that they get few extra points on the cuteness scale.
So I wanted to buy ONE. I stood there, trying to decide which one to take (like any other responsible 25 year old would do) and at the end I didn’t take any because I didn’t want the others to feel bad.
You realize how stupid this is? I’m fully aware these are just plush toys and have no feelings, but I just felt like a douche bag.
In May I will be 26. I’m married for nearly 5 years, I’m sharing two mortgages for two flats on two continents. I have very adult-ish responsibilities. I work as procurement specialist, which is actually a pretty difficult job. Yet, I’m still a sucker for all the cute stuff.
It may not be a problem in Asia. I know girls over 30, nearly 40 and they can go purchase whole series of Tsum Tsum, eat from a Gudetama bowl, have a Disney-themed bag and visit Japanese-themed cafes every weekend and no one will bat. Even if they have kids, that still doesn’t change anything – no one will say ‘You’re an adult now, you have responsibilities, you need to grow up. These stuff are for kids’.
Cuteness and cute stuff are perfectly acceptable.
Meanwhile, 8 hours earlier there’s a whole different world. Very sad world, to me – personally.
It makes me feel like an outcast. I heard people telling me that my cubical looks like a 12 year old girl’s room.
Even my own dad often reminds me ‘You should be more serious’.
How about everyone will just mind their own business? Why I can’t just like the things I like? I don’t harm anyone, I do my job the best I can, I don’t force anyone to like the same things I do. I’m paying for all the stuff from my own pocket.
I think cute stuff are like Disney movies – you’re never too old to enjoy them. If you don’t – that’s fine, but there should be no social age limit.
After long day in the office, I like to look at the cute Gudetama calendar and look forward to my holidays.
An awful job written on a cute piece of paper seems to be little less tiring. Or that little bells on my phone charm beaten by Biscuit the cat will make me smile when I have a rough day. Or that little cat-shaped soy sauce bottle will make the dinner more pleasant to my eye?
In this age the old ‘nerds’ are now accepted with their comic books, video games, action figures, so why can’t people stop judging the ones who are into cute stuff?
I guess I need to wait for Marvel to buy San-X and make Rilakkuma some kind of super hero. Shooting love and cookies out of its eyes and fighting rage filled Red Panda – Aggretsuko.
And to be fair, I bet some of you can relate to Aggretsuko.
I’m worried that with days passing by I will hear that more and more. I don’t want to give up or hide a part of me, just because ‘at this age it’s not appropriate’.
Luckily, that’s one of the things that Sing loves about me – at least one person on my side!
What is your opinion on this topic? When do YOU think people should stop openly get excited about ‘kawaii’ things? Do you like them, as well?