這次港男老公來說說他的外國老婆如何讓他對香港有另外的看法 – Sing’s guest post on how marrying a foreigner changed his view of Hong Kong

What do you do when you’re sick and have no idea what to write on your next post, but your hubby just came from his trip back home? Force him to write a guest post. I hope you will like it, because I think the topic is interesting – image-12how a foreign partner changed Hongkonger’s view of Hong Kong.

Let’s see what Sing has to say in this topic!

It is the Hong Kong Husband time again! I have just come back from Hong Kong less than a week ago. As you might know this time I was traveling alone back, please don’t ask me the reason yet because we will reveal it when the time comes! Ever since we live together, we almost always travel together .  Since I had a lot of time being alone during this trip, I had a lot of “what if” thoughts going through my mind. I also see my home city in a slight different way

It’s been 6 years since the last time I went back to Hong Kong alone. Technically speaking I did not really go to Hong Kong alone, I spent most of my time in China during those summer holidays. Not that I enjoy living in China, we are just like most of the Hongkongers, the victims of high propertyimage-11 price. Mom (aka Momzilla) found it more cost efficient to live for this short period in China as I spend most of my time overseas. Therefore my interaction with Hong Kong since middle school was very limited. I have to admit that I didn’t enjoy flying back during those years, not only had to fly 14 hours across the Pacific, I also had to spend my summer in China with mosquitoes and my distant relatives always asking questions! Hong Kong was just one of the stops during these trips. Never really thought of it while being back in the US.

This has changed after I met Paulina, who fell in love with Hong Kong as soon as she set her foot there, who loves Hong Kong more than the Hong Kong husband. She tied my lost connection to Hong Kong once again. I could not understand why she loves the crowded and overheated city at the beginning. More time I spent with her, more I can understand why she loves this place.

She found the city of Hong Kong is very lively and energetic.
She found the countryside of Hong Kong can be very natural and relaxed.
image-8She found the best of both words in this city. (Sing was huge Hannah Montana fan for a while. YES, REALLY, YOU CAN’T MAKE THIS UP – Paulina).
She found a place that she can call home.

This time I spent a whole day in Tuen Mun, visiting the places I grew up and where my wife and I used to live for a while. I was looking for the hidden gems that I never discovered for all those years. I didn’t have good impression of Tuen Mun when I was young, maybe because the city area always had a lot of fun things going on. Tuen Mun to me was only a place to live and go to school. Of course my school performance did not add any good impression for sure… I visited my kindergarten, primary school and middle school after so many years. I was sitting on the playground right outside of my school and she was on Facetime, believe or not, we were talking about sending our future children to follow my old steps, all the unhappiness of my school life was replaced by nostalgia instead. This is all because of Paulina, she can find all the good things from the places I didn’t like. Ordinary places like egg waffle store, old herbal tea house and HKD$25 pork chop image-10sausage with onion sauce lunch place keeps bringing me back the good memories I had. This is something I did not expect nor will I appreciate before, until she made me realize these things.

Ever since I know her, I become eager to show her Hong Kong culture. I was more interested in finding my own heritage. I appreciate the joy of being local there, a place I finally feel home.
I used to hate sitting at open food stall because it’s so noisy and hot but now we enjoy having an ice coffee in a hot day there.
I used to hate waiting for a seat to get dim sum but I now enjoy eating with her and spend some quality time there.
I used to take subway all the time but I enjoy taking ferry with her because the sea breeze keeps us refreshed.
I used to hate Hong Kong living style because it’s always in rush but now I appreciate the thank you from an old man in a newspaper stall. The human touch (人情味) of Hong Kong is still there.

image-9A bowl of noodles gives me smile, a sip of milk tea sweetens my heart, a bite of pineapple bun gives me a feeling of home.
I think this is a perk of having a foreign partner, so many things around me are not being found and appreciated and yet she was
able to guide me to appreciate things differently. Appreciate the things around you. I hope you can feel the same too. Don’t give up your heritage.

時光總不留人 難得過去幸運 
明日如何地變 仍是努力去捉緊 
回憶彼此同行 和街角故地這樣襯 
仍可 重溫 
曾經憧憬這街中 笑著興奮

– 舊街角

So far this is my favorite post written by Sing. I’m happy that he stopped complaining about hot weather in Hong Kong and appreciate a glass of cold soy milk with me.
Does your partner affect your view of your home? Let us know what you think, we would love to read it!

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15 thoughts on “這次港男老公來說說他的外國老婆如何讓他對香港有另外的看法 – Sing’s guest post on how marrying a foreigner changed his view of Hong Kong

  1. When you get older, the more you miss the old time — the place that you were born and lived; the food that you ate when you were kid; and so on. And I think we lost the appreciation of our hometown when we have taken these beauties for granted, but our foreign partner would remind us how beautiful of our hometown.

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  2. I think that, if anything, having a partner from other place forces you to go to many places in your hometown which you usually don’t go, to show him/her. For example when we go to Spain I am always thinking where we can go so C. can see something interesting, and many of those places I haven’t been in years. When we are in Suzhou I always want to visit new places so he gets to see more of his hometown too. For example last weekend we went to the old town in a village close to Suzhou, C. always goes to that village for business but had not been to the old town part.

    PS. Sing, why do you complain of the mosquitoes in China? Are there no mosquitoes in Hong Kong? Or the bite of HK mosquitoes is not that itchy? 😛

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    1. I actually don’t know as all the mosquitoes bit him not me 😀 but I know he is very racist towards Italian mosquitoes – they get the worst naming 😀 apparently some are more annoying and itchy than the other ones 😀
      btw. I just realized one of our facilities in China is in Suzhou 😀

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      1. Let me know if you guys are sent on a trip here 😀 There are many international companies here, yes (I guess because it’s relatively close to Shanghai but rents are cheaper than in Shanghai).

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  3. I feel the same about Hong Kong. It used to be just a very normal and boring place without character for me until I went to study in England. Now I realise how important it is to preserve my own culture and am glad my Italian girl would come to love my hometown too

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  4. I didn’t know Sing was writing here. It was just today when I had to ask my friends how to translate the word 人情味 into English. I think this feeling is common among migrants sigh sigh… I wish HK was a place of opportunities for people to build their community and the government cares for the people… most of these I can only find in my host country now.

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