Basically, it’s an AIB banking commercial – trust me, it’s adorable until the end when they promise you to make a decision in 3 hours or so. Couple with two kids decides to finally get married, get married to be a family. The lady mentions that when she was younger she probably wanted to have children more than she wanted to be married. But they tide the knot and she said (probably you might have heard this quote before) ‘Everything’s different, nothing’s changed’.
I had plenty of time to think about this sentence on my sick leave at work, sometime between resting and nearly crapping myself after The Conjuring 2. I swear to you, they should put me into those trailers when you can see the scared audience, that would turn into a comedy.
So here’s our list ‘Everything’s different, nothing’s changed’ – aside of our legal statuses and the fact that when Sing said ‘I call upon all persons here present to witness that I, Sing, do take thee, Paulina, to be my lawful wedded wife’ he suffered a long term memory loss and forgot how to cook or do most of the housework.
- Money management – like it or not, it’s now OUR money and not just mine or yours. It doesn’t mean we won’t buy stuff, we will just ask ‘What do you think – read: I need your confirmation to buy it’. As for the living cost, Momzilla has her own quote ‘It’s just a second pair of chopsticks’. Apparently she doesn’t remember how much Sing can eat.
- We kinda became Siamese twins – with all the respect to people who suffer from this. But the fact is, people see us like we were one. We don’t stop each other from going out alone, but it seems others around us don’t see it as a possibility.
- We fight differently – I won’t lie, we argue. Life is not an Instagram account where everything is sunshine and unicorns. But we fight in a different way. At the end of the day you cannot just say ‘F*ck it’ and leave. You will sleep in the same bed, so the argument has to be resolved by the end of the day for everyone’s sake.
- The annoying things your partner does will be a part of your marriage – after some time you just get used to it and learn to ignore it.
Also, we have a lovely saying ‘Don’t laugh at your wife’s choices – you were one of them’ – and I decided to take you with all the stupid things you do.
- Sing’s health became more important than mine. And vice versa – the reason I’m actually on a sick leave is because Sing forced me to go see a doctor. I normally would ignore the pain and hope I won’t die. It turned out my ‘bad sleep arm pain’ was actually a muscle inflammation.
- Sex life changes – I personally think that with time you get more comfortable with your partner which works only in your advantage. It’s OK to laugh, you don’t feel that embarrassment when something doesn’t go as planned. You will also try harder to keep the spark, scared of ‘the married sex life curse’.
- Sing came to realization that there’s a whole new world – decorative towels, multiple pillows just for the decoration, candles that will never light but look lovely, chopsticks that will never be used. But they do look good. Did I mention he had no idea there are those hanging scented tissues you leave in the closet? You only need a flying carpet and you can perform Disney song from ‘Aladdin’.
- Life got more difficult – most of the places expect both of our signatures, we need to think about life insurance policies, I spent more time at the airport checks as I get stuck with Sing and his Hong Kong passport. Every decision should be made by both of us. To be honest, that’s probably the only downside of getting married. It gives you more privileges when it comes to inheriting or legal statuses, but it can be pain in the butt sometimes! I can only speak for us, as we are an international couple from two different sides of the world.
- Our connection to our families loosen – I still call my parents everyday, Sing will call his parents less often, but he does that regularly, but to be honest it is different. We love our moms and dads so much I cannot even describe it, but in the end Sing and I are a new little branch in our families’ tries. We make decisions for us and not for them. Love or respect to them doesn’t change, but we got more independent from them and will think more of ourselves.
But there are countless things that didn’t change. Our love, the people we are, the everyday life – that’s why in the end, I love how true for us is this sentence!
How it was in your case? Do you agree with the quote? Share your experience and let us know! We would love to read your take on this topic! 🙂