As you might already know from our Facebook, I recently started a new job. Like a real job that pays me actual salary instead of being full time non-paid housewife and blogger with minus 56 USD earned on the blog. Now I’m full time employee, full time housewife and still a blogger in the domain-related debt. Hopefully the experience I’m getting and money I’m earning will help us to move to Hong Kong sooner than we planned.
Going back to the work topic – my job is not just ANY job. I work in the very same place as my husband. Not the same department, he’s not even my boss, but occasionally we meet up.
I’m sure many of you, just like I did, at least once in your life time read an article stating ‘Why you should/shouldn’t work with your spouse?’. There are probably as many opinions as people, so I want to share my personal experience.
It’s pretty awkward for many reasons. First of all, we’re the second couple in the company. Second of all, we’re the only interracial couple there. To make it funnier, Sing is the last Asian man who’s left in Irish facility – all of the Asian workers go back either to America or China. Since we’re such an original couple we just cannot escape thousands of questions. OK, Sing can because he is always busy, always on the phone or walking somewhere, but once I entered the company I keep hearing ‘How did you met? How was your wedding? Your parents like him? His parents like you?’ – on and on and on and on.
Third of all, Sing is a man to whom PDA does not exist. He will ‘hmm’ to me in front of everyone, if possible even avoid looking. Very professional attitude, no one would even noticed we are married, if they are not familiar with the situation.
Forth of all, whoever said ‘You will have enough of seeing each other’ never been to this company. My desk is in the area 1, Sing’s in area 4. I see him average 3 times a working day. I literally see more Chapman To in the TV than I see my own husband IN GENERAL. I don’t know if it’s due to the fact that Chapman To played everywhere or Sing is a workaholic. Or both.
But just because it’s awkward, it doesn’t mean it’s negative.
I don’t mind those questions, I find our love story quite unique and I love to share it. Maybe our wedding was a bit of a disaster (especially having Akon’s ‘Sexy Bi*ch’ going through the speakers), but how we met is in my mind a Heaven’s will. I won’t reveal too much, in the end we need to stay professional, but if it’s not a secret or nothing Sing wouldn’t want his co-workers to know, I don’t mind answering. Luckily, the first ‘couple-fever’ is gone and I get less and less of those questions. Or everyone just gossiped until everyone else knew.
I also like the fact my husband is so professional, I like to see him being in charge, doing things. It makes him really sexy! But then we both wear those non-sexy anti-static coats that kill the mood. With no PDA at work, Sing is even more needy, wants to hug or cuddle more. It’s like with a cake you have in the fridge, but you wait for the guests to come to eat it, then you just cannot wait until you can bite in the cake. We are each others cakes. Or maybe I’m his onion, he likes onions more than cakes, but then onions smell… I definitely work too much, I start having weird thoughts.
And I love the fact I don’t get to see him too much. I don’t think being 24/7 365 days a year together is healthy. I cherish more the little coffee breaks we have, the lunch we can finally eat together. You don’t know how happy I am to finally have that one promised meal every day. It is extra time spent together every day, but it’s also little enough to not get tired of seeing each other. Our occupations don’t really interact so we don’t have the conflict of interests, we don’t need to fight over something. It’s good how it is.
There’s one more advantage – if you work with each other, you have better understanding of each others complains, tiredness, stress. You can go through it together. Seeing how Sing really performs at work I think I understand him more…
In the end I can’t tell you if I would recommend or not working with your spouse. In our case, under the circumstances we have, it seems to be working out, but I’m pretty sure it could gone really different way if some of the circumstances were changed.
What do you think about working with your spouse? Do you think it’s possible to find balance between work and home? Let us know what you think – and sorry for my late respond to your comments, e-mails, PMs etc, but I can do it only after my work!