So this is it, officially we broke up with America and moved back to Europe. Last week was crazy, especially since I had to do everything on my own. Not to mention there were 343492302385 problems with sending Biscuit, our boxes will arrive in 3 months because the company first ships them to Hong Kong (coincidence? I THINK NOT), when crossing the boarder Sing was the only one who was stuck in the line… but we made it!
And if you think that’s one of those boring, personal ‘Dear diary and the rest of the Internet’ post, you are right. But it’s a really big step for both of us and I want to share my emotions with you guys!
It’s not that I hate America or living there – I just didn’t fit. I was happy to move there and be with Sing (I also hoped at that time, that Momzilla won’t get a visa and I won’t need to deal with her great ideas), but from the very first day I felt it’s not for me. Everything was way too big and way too far. Although, you can’t have too big In-n-Out burger – you have no idea how sad I was eating my last one at the SFO.
On the top of those culture and lifestyle differences we were constantly worried about our status there – if I can get F2 visa, can he get the OPT, can he get working visa, what about me, can I get a spousal visa? I understand that, in the US there are plenty of illegal immigrants so they have to be strict on those going the legal path, but it’s really uncomfortable to worry about the next step.
Back in the end of 2013 I wrote a post about our future and what to do – try staying in America, go back to Poland or maybe take a risk and go Hong Kong. Of course my ultimate goal is to be able to move to HK for good, but for now I’m happy to be back in Europe. At that time, in 2013 we haven’t thought of moving to other EU country besides Poland. Don’t really know why.
And I really do feel happy, it’s a new beginning for us. Non of us ever lived here so we start from the same place, with no advantage. I also see that Sing seems happy. I haven’t seen him excited in a really long time, but when he came back from his business trip few weeks ago he was saying ‘In Europe is like this and that’ or ‘I like this thing more in Europe’ or ‘Did you know that in Europe…?’. Yes, babe. I knew. I’m European. But let him be excited like a little Sing on a garlic farm (Yes, we had a huge garlic farm in the Bay Area and yes, that’s like a Disneyland for him).
When I write this post it’s after midnight of our time and in only few hours I will have my first job interview since forever! Maybe that’s why I’m so happy? Finally I don’t need to worry too much if I break the law by writing or will we have to move the next day in case Sing get’s fired. I feel free – free to work, free to travel, free from all the government crap. Of course there are limitation and restrictions, rules and documents but as an intentional couple with a non-EU spouse I have to say Europe is more family-friendly than the US. Of course it has its cons like Momzilla finding out about it and moving in with us, because why wouldn’t she? Can someone block HK version of Google for her? I’m against censorship but I bet you understand the situation. I know she can be fun to read about, but trust me, you can’t live with for more than a month with a woman who complains about the last piece of food: yu eat it, you’re selfish; you give the last piece to the Little Prince Sing The First of His Name and she will claim you make him lose his face by giving him the leftovers. True story.
I’m so excited I can’t really sleep. We went through a lot to get here safely, to bring Biscuit with us, to deal with all the remaining stuff. I know how emotionally exhausting it can be so to help other AMWF (and any other international) couples since next week I will open up a special section on MyHongKongHusband about immigration to Europe, family law, but also how to bring your pet to Europe (everyone knows I would put Sing into the cargo area instead of Biscuit if I could) or how does American spousal visa interview look like. Hopefully my experience will help some of you.
I guess that’s it for now, my boring post is over. I will take some rest, get over my jetlag and start writing regular post. I really wish you stay with us during our new journey in Ireland, especially since Sing will be more frequent writer on this blog! And in terms of the law section, please let me know in the comment section what things are bothering you and you can’t really find the answer on the Internet – let’s build it up together!
For now – hugs and kisses (and licks from Biscuit) from cloudy, but charming Limerick.
Have you ever been to Ireland? How do you feel about it? Or maybe you decided to change your life over one phone call just like we did? Share your stories about this country or your personal experience with moving abroad, we would love to read this! 🙂