It’s almost half way of my trip back home. I keep writing about Poland, food and I’m preparing few posts about my hometown in the last week of my stay, but few of you sent me a private message how I feel being in the long distance relationship again.
Sing and I spent serveral years as a ‘couple in a long distance relationship’ seeing each other every few months so technically we mastered covering any pain that comes with this type of relationship.
But at that time it was much easier – American education system is pretty LDR-friendly, Sing had plenty of time to talk to me. Now in last few weeks we talked in total maybe 10 hours? Try to find some spare time with 9 hours of time difference, 11 hours of working time, quarter end at your work and all the time you have to spend to feed MyStomachIsBlackHole a.k.a. Biscuit. Did I mention that Momzilla took all his private time for the last 10 days of her stay? It was pretty frustrating.
I won’t lie – it is frustrating. As much as I hate to sleep next to The Hairless Food Dispenser a.k.a. The Heater a.k.a. The Snoring Machine – I actually miss it. I got so used to the snoring sound that now it’s difficult to sleep without it. Some people sleep with their TV on, I sleep with my husband on. All the things I find annoying are part of my daily routine.
There’s the hot-oil hug that only happens when I’m deep-frying something and I can burn myself.
There’s the last dish that will never find its way to the sink.
There are socks hiding in random places. I don’t know which one of them does this but I will catch the one responsible for it and revenge.
There’s the always wet mirror like we had some freaking rain forest in the bathroom.
There are many things that drive me crazy everyday and change me into She-Hulk, me no like it, me kill The Heater. If you ever see me that way just throw a chocolate in my direction and run as fast as you can. And now I just miss getting mad at him for what he did.
I felt so lonely in Copenhagen when I took a cruise, I really wished to share that experience with him. Once again I was making videos of my trip, my walk in Copenhagen, my napping place at the airport. Like a real Instagrammer I just keep taking pics of the food I eat, of the places I visit or things I do during the day. The most ridiculous things I’ve sent to my husband was my mom trying to kill my dad while playing UNO (FIY, dad is still alive, you could hear it on my Facebook so don’t call the police!), mushrooms, beer and Coke covered in Hannah Montana stickers, boo boo on my toe, literally every single meal I had until now, new charger, a plastic cat and my dad’s blood results.
I like to keep him updated with my life.
I won’t lie that I don’t miss him, but I try to enjoy my ‘almost-single-life’ by eating whatever I want, taking all the blanket and all the pillows for myself, I don’t need to cook, I feel more alive, much more alive than back in America – living in a small city makes me really tired. Now with all the technology I can keep Sing updated with all the meaningless crap I do or like and I don’t need to be stuck to my computer. God bless technology.
I try to be reasonable, one month is enough to miss him, but not to the crazy-level. Even after more than a year and a half of living together.
As for Sing… I don’t know if it’s hunger or maybe he got dizzy doing all the housework by himself but his day starts with ‘I miss you, I love you’ and it ends the same. In meantime he complains how hungry he is, how lonely he is and how much he wants me to go back. Like every other sentence. Now besides being The Hairless Food Dispenser a.k.a. The Heater a.k.a. The Snoring Machine he should be The Cheeseman listening to cheesy Taiwanese love songs and counting days until I’m back (but of course won’t take half day off to pick me up from the airport – that’s how much he misses me).
I don’t know if we got to the point we are still too used to being in LDR that it doesn’t make a difference anymore or since both of us are pretty busy during only month long staying or maybe SOMEONE does too much reasearch For Academic Purposes (if you read 9GAG you know what I mean) but it’s much easier right now than it used to be. My visa is in my passport, I know I won’t need to worry to see him again – the situation is more stable, we know what will happen. I think it’s great – don’t judge me as heartless or someone who doesn’t care about partner, but I just think being in LDR gives you a good warm-up in future problems of interracial and international couples. Let’s say you come from the same country but you moved away, you cannot always travel together, you might not be able to visit each other’s families. You need to make tough decisions, you need to face loneliness and we already have experience in it. You cannot get used to it but you can manage your time and feelings to make it the best and the easiest for the two of you.
Even if it’s only for a month.
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