我們相戀的故事 – our short love story

Kids, this is the story of how I met your father. DSC1Hopefully it won’t end like the TV show ‘How I met your mother’ because I just hated it, after few months I still cannot forget how much the writers screwed it up.

Anyway many of you asked me about the story of Sing and I, I usually replied ‘Long story short: while traveling‘. It surely works as a legitimate answer, but our story has a little bit of a plot twist which I will reveal at the on the post.

It was few years ago, both of us were after nasty break ups. I got cheated by my ex-boyfriend, Sing’s ex-girlfriend said ‘It won’t work out’ leaving my husband alone while she attended the same night to her brother’s wedding so I guess non of us expected to meet someone that could be our soul mate in near future. To cheer himself up he went with his friend for a backpack trip in Europe, including Poland. Until today he never answered me ‘From all the countries, why Poland?‘, but I can assume it was World War II history and cheap prices. Anyway, we were heading to the same direction – Krakow, but in our train compartment I was the one who could speak both Polish and so-so English. You must know that it’s still quite hard to find a ticket controller who knows and is willing to speak English. They got poked on their shoulders – that was suppose to tell them ‘Tickets, please‘. Here’s the part when me, sitting in front of them for the whole time saved the day. DSC3They thanked me, I started the interview for ‘Where are you from? Where are you going? What is the meaning of life?’ and it turned out we visit the same city plus Auschwitz-Birkenau camp in Oswiecim. From one sentence to another I suggested I can help them buy the tickets and we can go together, I read few books about things that happened inside the camp, I visited it many times besides… at that time my not yet husband was pretty cute (not anymore, sorry Pumpkin).
In those few days we all became good friends. I guided them a little bit around the city, meet up to eat some delicious Polish food and introduce them to Polish style Milk Bars (click here to see what you shouldn’t miss while traveling in Poland!).
Sadly, it was time to end up my lonely post-break up trip, they were going to Warsaw so Sing left me his e-mail address, probably he wanted to be sure even thought I have his phone number there will be no way we can lose contact with each other. After both of us came home, me to Wroclaw and Sing to America where he studied, we kept on mailing, texting, skyping (is that a real word?), he even confessed he has feelings towards me but he still was in friend-zone thanks to my awful ex who made me not want to have a further relationship with any human being with a penis. At the same dad I went through some personal disaster, my father got a heart attack. He was alone, my mom found him and dragged to the doctor. He said if my mom was 30 minutes later there would be no chance to save him. One missed bus from work and my dad could not be with us today. Phone calls, text messages, e-mails from Sing were literally spamming me. He just wanted to be sure everything is OK with my dad and me. After saying ‘good night’ I was sure to get a text before I fall asleep and when I woke up the text was there too. I think that’s how he escaped the friend-zone, because I caught myself (or should I say my parents caught us) on talking at 3AM of Polish time. Good bless T-mobile and their mobile internet. I couldn’t wait when he wakes up and we can talk again, we kept sending each other photos of our daily life, meals, friends meeting. We were cool before Instagram people. DSCF7029One night while we talked I decided to make a move and this time I was the once to confess how I feel about him. I wasn’t sure if he moved on and friend-zoned me this time but actually it all turned out great. He immediately went online to book the tickets and see me as soon as he had a break from school. We talked even more, until the day of his departure. I waited at the airport and then I saw my love in tiny-sized package coming out of the gate – I wanted to hug him but he thought of being more manly than he normally is (maybe he watched too many romantic comedies) and decided he will just suddenly kiss me (insert ‘Eww, get a room’ here). Then we did what normal couples do – enjoy each others company, blah blah blah and now we’re almost 2 years married next month.

Now some of you might be like ‘Meh, many couples meet while traveling‘ and I agree, but I don’t think many couples have a plot twist like we do. I didn’t want to put it inside the ‘original story’, but I really believe there was something in this world that wanted Sing and me to meet. Not once or twice, but 4 different occasions could happen before we both sit in the same compartment.

  • Once I got Sing’s e-mail address I thought I’ve seen it somewhere, I just couldn’t figure it out. Of course Hilary Duff’s song title could be one of the things that I thought it’s familiar, but it wasn’t it. Then it struck me – besides really awful song it was a nickname of a person I talked via private messages on one of the forums with Asian culture. I asked him is he the same person I once talked about some Japanese singers, then we just lost the contact and he was like ‘Oh my God, is was really you’. To make it more funny there was another forum with similar focus and guess what? We both been writing posts there too.  I completely had no clue that behind the nick there’s a person I will meet in real life without knowing it. It’s like you read someone’s blog, you know they live in the same area, you might pass them on the street everyday and still have no clue that is THIS person.DSC2
  • Keeping our at that time ‘friendship’ in a long distance we added each other on Facebook, but I didn’t really pay much attention to his profile. I looked on some of his traveling photos, I looked on the one I took for his friend and him, just casual, non-stalking behaving. Then my Japanese friend added some post that turned out to be a huge discussion with lots of comments and I noticed one person with very specific profile photo, so I clicked there and I think I don’t need to tell you more. We had one mutual 2 mutual friends – the Japanese guy and Sing. My Japanese friend was also a friend of Sing’s classmate in a language school in Japan. There was a tiny chance one day Satoru could meet me with her and she could introduce me to Sing. Can you imagine that?
  • This one is pretty recent because it happened last year. I often do posts based on what Chinese men write online – their opinions, thoughts etc. and Baidu forum is pretty good for that. I almost cried from laughing when I browsed it with my husband and we noticed that one of the ‘famous users’ (believe me, it’s not a good type of fame), known also by my husband is a friend from Mainland China I met few years before. How small is this world?

I like to believe destiny had a plan for us. It tried to make us meet on the Internet with forums we wrote in, it put people that were suppose to be a bridge between us, it even tried to combine those two! After all the possibilities it made us buy the tickets for the same day, same time, same train, same compartmen and sent a non-English speaking ticket controller, maybe to make him our little love Cupid.

How did you meet your sweetheart? Do you think it was a coincidence or a destiny to make you two meet? Share your lovely, heart-warming stories, I would love to read them! 🙂
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53 thoughts on “我們相戀的故事 – our short love story

    1. I didn’t think it was romantic at that time, especially he was in the friendzone, but I was amazed that in this huge world we were able to ‘meet’ at the same sites and even have mutual friends! How awesome it would be if we met through the people we knew 🙂 that’s why I cannot deny we just were meant to be 🙂

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  1. What a great story. It seems you two were really meant to meet each other and be together. 😀 I met my husband online through Yahoo Personals. I was getting divorced and having a real hard time of it. I put myself on yahoo just to see what would happen. He and I wrote for about a month before speaking on the phone. Then I got a transfer to Virginia where he was. We met on December 22, 2000 and we have not been apart since.

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  2. 命运! I like to imagine someone in charge of your love story somewhere in the world being all like “Damn it, it was him, the boy who left that comment two minutes ago! Come on guys!” But you finally made it, that’s what matters.

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  3. What a story! The world really did want you two to meet 🙂 I also met my husband after a nasty break-up, he had been single for a while after a long distance relationship. Our common friend had broken up with his girlfriend and we all went to this bar to cheer him up. And instead me and my husband started talking! I’ve written a whole post about that before if you want to read the whole story: http://sarajaaksola.com/our-finnish-chinese-love-story/

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  4. What a great story! I love how you had those common friends and how you had that both been in that Asian forum! It is yuanfen! My friend told me today that her friend met her husband in the Nairobi airport. They were both on a seven hour layover and ended getting a drink together and the rest is history. I love travel stories like yours and theirs!

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  5. Sweet story and those moments of fate are magical. I sometimes wonder about how little decisions sometimes determine your future and your happiness.
    Thanks for sharing – my own story is definitely less interesting, but we had fun in our long distance relationship too.

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  6. I love this! I never really believed in fate or anything like that, but I met my boyfriend on an exchange trip. It was kind of one of those “love at first sight” things but he wasn’t even my exchange student so I was hesitant to pursue anything. It’s just crazy that if his high school and mine didn’t meet up, we never would have either.

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  7. Oh, talk of the elusive friend-zone. I read a study recently that said it’s kind of a myth and women often make deep romantic relationships with men after being friends first. Then again, usually talk of this zone is more about getting laid than relationships…

    But one part stood out, do you believe that a man can friend-zone a woman??

    Hope your dad’s health is good now. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. to be honest with you I thought there’s no point in talking about it after so many year but so many people asked so I finally did it 🙂 thank you, I think it must be it! 🙂 not a coincidence but fate haha 🙂

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  8. Another story I once again can’t show my wife because she will be all about”they were,meant for each other, it’s destiny…, and look at us! Bah”.
    So please stop writing about such things, makes me feel bad about it :p
    lets see if I will write about my own story at some point.

    p.s. We also hated the ending / several last episodes of the show!

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  9. I LOVE this story! What a small world! And I don’t blame him for traveling to Poland. i studied a semester abroad in Warsaw and loved it, although Krakow is my favorite city. Oh, I just can’t get over how sweet and cute this story is!

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  10. brilliant! what a story! thanks for sharing. It reminds me someone I met last summer in the exact place, Krakow. I travelled around EU for a few months and idk why I ended up staying only in Poland for more than a month. I will be back there again for this summer break. I hope I can share my own story one day ^^

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  11. Very interesting story and well written. Would you say that you are the dominant person in this relationship? Your from Poland, he is from Japan, and your living now in HK?

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    1. no, no – my husband is from Hong Kong, we just shared an interest in Japan, he even went to language school there during summer 🙂 but currently we live in the US, he got a job here for now, but hopefully soon we can go back to Hong Kong 🙂

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      1. Thank you. I was thinking he was from HK but the article confused me to think he was in Japan. I am in Florida. Do you like living in HK better than the US? I have been thinking of working over there and wondered: Why? Happy Trails

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  12. Awwww, that’s such a sweet story! My and my fiancé’s is not terribly exciting, but works. ^^ My parents on the other hand have a story that could well rival yours. 😀 I’ll have to ask them if I can tell it some day. (I love reading/sharing stories like these!)

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  13. Omg! This is so romantic! 😀 And how crazy is it that you guys talked to each other not knowing that one day you guys would meet, and eventually get married?! Definitely fate 🙂 And btw, it’s kinda evil that you kept this story from us for so long >.< haha

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  14. I think it was great that your hubby had interest in Poland BEFORE he meant you. Just convenient that he learned about culture, history, food, when you 2 first meant. I suppose you hadn’t been to Asia before meeting him.

    Meeting dearie was more boring..we met each other when taking the same evening computer course. He will be featured in a few months….but more narrowly focused.

    I met him when I was 32 and coincidentally after I just bought a home for self. Well, no he didn’t move in with me nor vice versa for first few years. He was recently divorced father with 2 preadolescent children in shared custody care with his ex-wife.

    We’re so glad we made the decision not to live together immediately…it’s just easier on his children and I knew I could not be a great step-mom. (I chose not to have children myself…and don’t regret the decision.) Also gave us lots of space to know each other well before we lived each other under 1 roof a few years later.

    By coincidence, I grew up in an Ontario city with a history of German immigrants.
    Dearie, himself immigrated from Germany as little boy … But I met him in a totally city where we both lived …100 km. elsewhere.

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  15. Awww….A beautiful story of how you met Sing – can be a plot for a film!! Yes, I believe the world is small, but only if you have the same interests. I met my current bf on a hike, he wasn’t interesting at all, but since he knew nearly all my friends, we started chatting and now seeing each other! xx

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  16. This is such a lovely story! I’m not very good meeting people face to face (I am shy and people usually think I’m just snob or stupid because I don’t talk too much) so I’ve never had a story like yours haha.
    BTW I haven’t seen the end of HIMYM… well I just watched until season 5! Should I keep watching or meh?

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  17. Proof of 好心有好报. If you had not helped him with the tickets, all these wonderful things would not have happened to you I suppose.

    I’m new to your blog, not sure how I got here, but you got a nice blog, so I will turn stalker from now on 😀

    What’s wrong with HIMYM?? I finished Season 1 to Season 8 in 3 weeks time via Netflix when I was in the States for work last year. I thought the series rocks. Did Season 9 disappoint greatly? It’s supposed to be the final season, isn’t it?

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    1. it is, the final episode could be great but they couldn’t stop in the right moment – I don’t want to spoil you too much, but if you want just watch the two last episodes to know the disappointment of the fans 😀

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  18. What a great story. You two were destined to meet! My husband and I learned that we had crossed each other’s paths dozens of times about 5 tears before we met. He worked in the building in front of my apartment building and often went across the street to the convenience store where I went almost daily on my way home. We didn’t meet until we were in college (30 miles from there), but it’s incredible to realize how close we’d been to each other without knowing it.

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  19. You definitely got lucky! I had an interesting train ride through Poland with a friend and, like your husband, we quickly realised that the conductor didn’t speak English. We met some police (M & F) who did and had some drinks with them. Very friendly but no romance! Next time I’m there I will try to find an old Milk Bar. They look amazing.

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  20. Wow! Such an amazing love story! 🙂 I hope one day I will be able to find my soul mate like yours was fated to be. After reading another one of your posts about how women should be married by age 25, it kind of freaks me out. I haven’t even dated yet and I’m almost 22 😦

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  21. I just have to say… that is one of the most romantic meet-up stories I have ever heard! It really does sound like a movie! Meeting on a train in Europe, exploring Poland… wow. The fact that you two had kind of met before on forums in the past also proves that, well, it’s destiny!

    Meeting while traveling isn’t really that common… when I ask all my friends how they met their partners, they usually say OKCupid or Tinder, ha.

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  22. Nawww! I couldnt stop smiling reading this post! Sucha lovely story of how you and your husband met. Gives me hope haha! I met my bf in the most unexpected way and while I was travelling too! I was in London and was bored and just wanted to find someone to have coffee/hangout with so my friend suggested me the app “OKCupid” It turns out to be a dating app and my bf who then was just stranger left me a message and yeah we met and hung out and feelings just happen. Some people would say it was too fast but as day past by our feelings grew and Ive never been much happier in life since I met him 🙂 Easy said, we’re both just been in love and proving everyone who told us we got together too fast that there’s no such thing as too soon to be together or whatever along that line because if youre lucky/destined to fine that special one, then you just do 🙂

    Xx

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