Love is patient, love is kind. Sounds familiar? I agree, but love is not only bright and happy, often it requires taking a tough path in life. Especially when people in love come from different cultures and are divided by distance that could be counted in thousands of kilometers.
Today I want to share with you our favorite AMWF love stories that changed women’s life and made sacrifices in order to keep the love of their lives. I hope I was able to translate everything correctly, especially the second story was pretty famous so just in case of any mistakes please inform me! 🙂
British girl x Taiwanese man and night market
Amy met her husband in a hostel in Beijing, at that time they both were backpacking in China. She found him really attractive, they talked and exchanged numbers. She calls it love at first sight. Year later they got married and moved together to Taiwan (first he quit his job and went for her to England). She changed her cozy office job to a stand at night market preparing fish and chips and other food. If you want a link to the video about them just click here .
Some people might not see it as really serious life change for her, but I think it takes courage to make such a big step, go out of your comfort zone in your own country, change your profession and take a risk if the idea will be good.
British girl x Chinese husband and a fight for land
Story of this couple was originally posted on Baidu, later it has been modified for many articles so there’s a chance you’ve heart about that couple living in Shandong province. They were living in the house of his grandfather, they had baby on the way, but at the same time government decided they needed their land for construction and gave 3 days to make up their minds. Grandpa didn’t want to leave his land so he and his grandson asked wife to go back to England and give a birth there but she refused. They refused to give the land, even thought she knew she will have many problems because of that, if I understand correctly government refused to issue the birth license (?! no clue about that, so it might be my mistake in a translation). How did the brave girl fight for her husband’s family? She called media, also foreign media, the story got viral and authorities wanted to negotiate. In the end they sold the land for more reasonable price, Joanne gave a birth in China, but from what I read they still struggle because the situation made them go on the ‘black list’ and she needs to give a paper for this, for that, get a paper from this and that institution etc. She fought for her family despite everything, knowing how much trouble it could bring her in future.
Later I actually found an article about them in English so if you want to read it click here. You can see the slight difference between the thing I tried to translate and that post, but I guess it all depends who translates it and writes it.
Ukrainian girl x Chinese man and commitment after death
Nadya married her husband when she was 23. He came from Hunan province, but they weren’t poor, they had their family business and 3 sons. Everything was perfect until her husband got liver cancer and died when Nadya was just 32 years old. To make things worse her parents in law cried so much they became blind (some people might argue it’s not possible, but I’m not a doctor to judge it) and got heart problems. Alone with 3 children and 2 adults she needed to take of she decided not to re-marry, even thought she was still young and could have better life she stayed with her in laws, sold the company she couldn’t handle only by herself and just kept working as a bread winner (rice winner?) and a housewife. Every morning she tided her youngest child on her chest, make a breakfast for the family, take older sons to school, go to work, then make groceries, cook, clean, pick the children from school. She worked hard as a translator to send her children once in a while to see her family back in Ukraine. She even made their tiny 40m2 house bigger by adding a loft inside all by herself. Even thought her in-laws suggested her to go back she stay committed to her husband’s family. She won a contest for a ‘beautiful person’ of the city she lived in and I must say she is one of the most beautiful people inside I ever read about. For her no matter how difficult it was she did everything she could and kept her family together. From all the stories this one is my favorite. She was still young, had so many responsibilities. She could easily quit and move on, but she kept the vows. If you want to read more about Nadya click here and here.
Would I say I sacrificed for my husband? Well, I packed my 21.5 years (at that time) of life in one suitcase and a hand carry, I had to fly one week before I even thought I will so I couldn’t say goodbye to my friends. I haven’t seen my parents for almost 1.5 year now, soonest I can see them is later this year. I gave up my school for some period of time, as F-2 visa is forbidden to study or practically do anything entertaining. I became a housewife, only a housewife (no offense to any housewife, I know how hard it can be but I always wanted to work and be a housewife at the same time, cannot get satisfaction from staying at home) – I never thought that would be my life. But would I really call it a sacrifice? I don’t think so. I just followed what my heart told me to do. I sometimes think ‘Oh, maybe I shouldn’t have done that’, but then I take Biscuit with me to the bed, slide under my husbands arms and I know I made a right choice. And I’m pretty sure that those ladies I introduced you today (nor any person in love) don’t think of their actions as sacrifice.
How about you? Have you ever done something you or others would consider a sacrifice for your partner? I would looooove, just love to read your stories! 🙂
PS My two big announcements! First of all next week you will be able to finally know the story how Sing and I met. Second of all is… my mother in-law got American visa and she will be visiting us for a month! NOOOO. So you can expect a series on blog called ‘Sad Daughter-in-law diary‘ or something, haha.